Tuesday, June 11, 2013
I find this a little fascinating and want to know if I am alone here. Terrific T HATES to be timed on anything for school. He completely freezes up and takes a million times longer if you tell him he is being timed. I talked to a friend of mine who is having the same problem with her daughter. Timed tests freak her out too. What is the deal? Ironically, he likes being timed in how fast he can run around the house or something silly like that. But that is HIS idea too, so that might have something to do with it.
Off and on during the year, I would be trying to get him to work quicker on his math so told him I was going to set the timer. He instantly starts tearing up and saying he can't do it. He has always been this way. When he was little, I could tell him he had 3 hours to clean up 3 toys, and he would cry that entire three hours, saying he couldn't do it that fast. When really, it would take him less than 3 minutes if he would just do it.
I have tried occasionally to get him to do things being timed, because at some point in his life it is going to matter. Thankfully, it doesn't right now. I'm trying to prepare him for the future. Someday, he will have 30 minutes to get to his job, flight, wedding, etc, etc....and I can't have him in a puddle on the floor because he is afraid to fail.
Today, it was his math facts sheet. He will piddle all day to do one sheet of math. So I told him I would time him to make it "fun." I didn't tell him he had a certain amount of time or anything, just a lighthearted, "Let's see how fast you can do this." And he instantly started in on the "I can't do it that fast!" How fast? I never said a time to beat or anything at all. I told him fine, no timing, and he completed the page in 5 minutes (I was timing...shhh....). He CAN do the work, just the thought of being times makes him lose it.
I'm thankful we homeschool so we can be flexible, but I still want him able to survive the real world - lol.
Have you ever had a kiddo like this? What did you do? I'm open to suggestions, please!